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Jun. 29th, 2002 01:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
botias
Dear Miss. Manners,
I wanted to write and let you know how much I have enjoyed your books, and, of course, to ask your advice.
Recently I have been contacted by email by my biological father with whom I have not had any contact for 8 or more years. I have been polite, but I have to admit that I would rather things returned to their former state. He moved away when I was little, and I feel no fondness for him, only guilt and anger. I feel guilty because our lack of contact is partly my fault. I saw very little of him as I was growing up and as I entered my teens, our encounters became increasingly abrasive. Finally, in my late teens, and only partly through negligence, I didn't send him my forwarding particulars after a move. This was wrong of me, and I have been told regularly through these intervening years by my paternal grandmama that although he has badly wanted to contact me, he has felt so hurt and offended by my lapse that he could not.
I feel very upset whenever I see an email from him in my inbox. He has been pressing me for my physical address, but I have side-stepped his requests. If I have not been reared properly enough to feel genuine remorse, (indeed thwarting him in this way has turned out to be the most satisfaction I have gotten from our association) I do suffer from the guilt. Please tell me what my duty is in this matter, that I might either do it, or know the true extent of my transgressions.
Thank you.
I wanted to write and let you know how much I have enjoyed your books, and, of course, to ask your advice.
Recently I have been contacted by email by my biological father with whom I have not had any contact for 8 or more years. I have been polite, but I have to admit that I would rather things returned to their former state. He moved away when I was little, and I feel no fondness for him, only guilt and anger. I feel guilty because our lack of contact is partly my fault. I saw very little of him as I was growing up and as I entered my teens, our encounters became increasingly abrasive. Finally, in my late teens, and only partly through negligence, I didn't send him my forwarding particulars after a move. This was wrong of me, and I have been told regularly through these intervening years by my paternal grandmama that although he has badly wanted to contact me, he has felt so hurt and offended by my lapse that he could not.
I feel very upset whenever I see an email from him in my inbox. He has been pressing me for my physical address, but I have side-stepped his requests. If I have not been reared properly enough to feel genuine remorse, (indeed thwarting him in this way has turned out to be the most satisfaction I have gotten from our association) I do suffer from the guilt. Please tell me what my duty is in this matter, that I might either do it, or know the true extent of my transgressions.
Thank you.
