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Reading Material: The Innkeeper's Song Peter S. Beagle
1,112 Down-to-Earth Garden Secrets Julie Landy, Jeff Nowak ed.
Dependence requires conformity. To the wishes of a mate, the standards of a small community, to the expectations of a prospective employer. Maybe that's why dependence is a bad word. It acts counter to our ideals. I've encountered a fair bit of anger about this conformity thing, that's for certain.

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I didn't say _I_ was angry. I've generally concluded that conformity of dress and manner is a harmless bother, and people can expect other kinds of conformity if they like, but they've never been selling anything I need to buy that badly. But I've encountered a lot of anger. I read an interesting harangue recently about being expected to enter into some sort of romantic relationship. Flippant summary: true love doesn't exist so why give up control of the remote?
Are you certain that your clique doesn't have rules of conformation as strict as any other? In your quest to not be normal and boring, and I don't recall ever thinking that you were (and here I cite the many hours that I voluntarily spent in your company) you must of had to quash genuine likings for things that didn't meet your chosen image. Weren't they 'me-ness' also? Of course, we all have parts of ourselves that we don't care for. I shouldn't try to say what parts a person should elastrate and what parts they should not. For myself, my goal these days is to own all of my dogs, junkyard bad-ass and toy poodle alike. I still find myself saying things like 'Oh no, I'm just watching after Shnookums here for a friend...' and I just want to smack myself.