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[botias]

While I'm at it, I quite liked this: why gay marriage DOES affect het marriage, and why society should put on their 'big girl' pants and accept it anyway

I've often found the notion that gay marriage is a non-issue and anyone who feels otherwise is deeply confused, to be kinda not the case. I know how it is to get out in the big world and find that my One True Path complete with safety rails actually wasn't. It's scary for a bit to have that taken away--feels a little wobbly. I got over it and was the better for it, and I believe that others will too.

For more on wearing the 'big girl' pants, it was nice to hear someone, especially someone who no doubt has a much wider audience than I, express my feelings about Prop 8's defeat (from deborahw37):

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27650743/

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[botias.livejournal.com]

I just feel a distinct chill in the air if I acknowledge the existence of the pain of the other side, if I make any effort at all to understand their world view, if I don't feel myself superior for being 'right'. That's what I don't like and can't get behind.

I'm deeply disappointed and outraged that Prop 8 passed and while I agree that vigorous protests will not bring warmth to the opposition's hearts, I do believe that humans are social animals that want to conform to their society, and large angry protests will have an effect on people. Their opinion might not change, but they may get a sense that their opinion is no long socially acceptable, or is at least very controversial, and will be more likely to keep it to themselves, and that is the first step to reducing the incidence of the opinion.

[bendy1.livejournal.com]

So that's exactly why you feel a chill in the air.

Look, we KNOW you're right. We KNOW people will be hurt. But some opinions *are* intolerable, no matter how much it hurts the person involved. Precisely because of your second paragraph.

You cannot afford to give people a platform from which they can cry victim. 1)it's probably their own fault and 2)inches can't be given, for certain values of inch.